L Scott Peck wrote a book called The Road Less Travelled. The first three sentences in the book read “Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it”.
Is your life difficult? If your answer is yes, does that mean you have not seen the truth yet?
We can actually transcend all difficulties in life. This is not just a philosophical view. This is a practical reality.
All our woes and troubles have one thing in common.
Think of all the problems you have in your life. Think of your sticky relationships, the conflict you have in your life, your health, your job – or lack of a job. Who is the one person that features in all of these situations?
Yes, you got it.
Does that mean you are a trouble maker? Of course not – unless, of course, you enjoy causing trouble.
The majority of people do not want to cause or have trouble. They just want to have a quiet, peaceful life with good health, great friends and abundance.
If only everyone else would do their share and work on the same agenda. Because if they don’t they cause you stress.
Guess what? They are not going to change. You need to change if you want to make your life any easier.
Let me know how I can help you with the change.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am a professional transition coach. I help individuals and businesses to achieve their personal and commercial objectives.
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This is a quote from the Wall Street Journal in September 2009: “A recent study reported that 52% of working French don’t sleep well on Sunday night. But work-related stress is not a French disease, and is ubiquitous and severe in all developed economies. In the U.K. and U.S. 70% of employees don’t sleep well on Sunday night either.”
That means probably about
• 19 302 500 French workers
• 98 413 700 Americans and
• 21 700 000 British people
spent their Sunday nights tossing and turning in September of 2009, instead of getting a good night’s sleep.
Were you one of these millions of people? How did you overcome the problem? Or is it still a problem for you?
When we do things that are against our true nature, it requires a lot of energy. It also requires our energy to flow in a direction that does not feel natural. Our bodies go into a state of heightened alert and all systems go on standby.
Imagine how your body would respond when you do a job that is against your true nature. Your body would be in a continuous state of heightened alert during the week. By Friday afternoon you would feel exhausted, for good reason. Your energy will have been drained from you.
Then you spend the weekend doing things you love and enjoy, and you “re-charge your batteries”.
But what happens on a Sunday evening? Of course your mind starts to work on the job that waits for you on a Monday morning. You send a message to your body that says “time for heightened alert again” and your body obliges and becomes tense again. You cannot have a tense body and relaxed sleep. The result is a sleepless night of tossing and turning.
How do you counter-act the stress that keeps you awake on a Sunday night?
Find you life’s passion. Start to live that life’s passion as if each day is your last day. Your mind, body and spirit will be in alignment. You will sleep like a baby. It really is as simple as that.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am a professional transition coach. I help individuals and businesses to achieve their personal and commercial objectives.
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What happened to your New Year’s resolutions for last year? Can you remember how long they lasted? And can you remember how you felt when you realised that you had failed in keeping them? You failed yourself.
Why did you make those resolutions in the first place? Of course, you made them because there was a particular part of your life that caused you much stress. Your solution was to make just one change. You fooled yourself into thinking that one change would make everything all right.
And when the change did not last, the situation was actually much worse, because you now felt even more like a failure.
For many people the only reflection they do in the New Year relates to the amount they drank (again) and how they never learn.
Other people do not even tell anyone what their New Year’s resolutions are, because they know from experience that the resolutions will not last into the New Year.
I went through the same vicious cycle for a significant part of my life. I believed that I was powerless to influence the outcome of anything, and therefore I had to just make the best of it.
The more I played the victim, the more I became a victim. I had to learn a few very hard life lessons before I realised that there is a plan behind every one of my experiences.
It was so interesting to note how groups of bad experiences dwindled the moment I “got the message”.
The more I delved into this, the more I discovered a different reality that made complete sense to me.
My own research has uncovered a massive body of knowledge that I started to apply in my own life. I came to see more patterns, more processes, more relationships between people and nature. I became aware of a different reality.
I learnt that some things happen to us because they are inevitable, while other things happen to us because they are part of a much bigger plan. I learnt how to distinguish between the things I had to change and the things I had to accept.
The result was that I no longer make any New Year’s resolutions. I no longer need them. Instead, I become aware of my life plan, and I allow thoughts and ideas to bubble to the surface. I then pick and choose what I want, and see how the thoughts become actions.
A significant outcome for me is significantly reduced stress, and significantly increased peace of mind and contentment.
If you want some ideas on how to reduce your own stress significantly and create the best New Year ever, please contact me for some great ideas.
Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am a professional transition coach. I help individuals and businesses to achieve their personal and commercial objectives.
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Life is stressful. Most people try to relieve their stress by taking some form of chemical crutch like a sleeping pill, or cigarette. None of these help to relieve stress. They simply suppress the symptoms of stress.
Stress is not caused by life events such as moving house or getting divorced or changing jobs. All these and many other events are symptoms of an inner division.
A life event can be stressful for one person, but a relief for another person. One person dreads moving house, while another person looks forward to it.
The way people deal with stressful events also differ drastically from one person to the next. For example, one person gets raped and carries that burden for the rest of her life. She knows of no other way to define herself. Another person gets raped and experience a turning point in her life where she becomes a motivational speaker or changes to a career that she would otherwise never have considered.
Stress is nothing other than an inner division or inner tension. This tension is determined by how the person perceives the situation.
What is healthy stress for one person, is unhealthy stress for another person. Healthy stress results in inner growth towards maturity. Unhealthy stress results in stagnation, and emotional and physical pain.
What happens when you ignore or suppress the symptoms of stress? Your body finds more and more different ways to express the tension. If you believe that chemicals and drugs resolve stress, you add more chemicals to your cocktail and your body protests more and more. It becomes a vicious circle.
How can you avoid the consequences of ignored stress?
It is possible to acknowledge the symptoms of stress and then look for the cause. Sometimes this is easy, and at other times it is a challenge to first overcome the fear of what you may find when you do some introspection.
When you take that step and explore the reason for your inner tension, you are always pleasantly surprised.
