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My relationship has been going nowhere for the past few months.
My partner and I have been going through rough times for various reasons, but we are not really talking to each other.
Should I stay or go?
I had a short and - for me – very happy relationship with a woman. She ended it a few months ago.
I was hoping that we could continue as friends, but that was not to happen. I am really struggling to put her and the relationship behind.
I have been using visualization and having a more positive outlook on life and it has made a difference, but not enough.
How do I put this relationship behind me?
I am not sure whether I am stressed out.
I have been with my boyfriend for three years now and we have a two-year-old son.
My problem is that I have too much to do. My boyfriend and I both work full-time. When we get home, I have to cook and clean and attend to my son. It feels like I just cannot stay ahead with the cleaning and stuff. I am tired, my son nags and all I can do is shouting at him.
My boyfriend will occasionally bath my son when he is not too tired from work. He is very messy and does not clean up after himself, making even more work for me.
I have no time to just relax, and would love to go to the gym again, because I enjoy it, but then there is nobody to look after my son.
I am seriously thinking of leaving my boyfriend, because at least then I only need to look after my son and myself.
Do you have any advice for me?
I met this incredible girl when I was in college, and I really care deeply about her. It is a second relationship for both of us. Her first relationship was long-distance. He started cheating on her after a few months, and she had no idea about it. She even went to visit him and as far as she was concerned they were very happy. He then dumped her just after her birthday.
I knew her at the time but our relationship only started a while after hers ended. We were very happy initially, but then I finished my studies. Because of finances I had to move back home, and this means I am only able to visit her every two months. I am now saving money so that we can move in together soon. We do communicate regularly with IM, video and phone, but it is not the same. I feel I am losing out because I cannot see her face or hear her voice, and that causes misunderstandings that turn out to be quite hurtful for both of us.
She still has her studies and she works two jobs to earn some money. She comes home late at night when her family is already asleep, and she has nobody to talk to.
I am very concerned that she is more and more depressed, and on top of that she is turning into a nasty piece of work - even her friends complain about her behavior.
I really want to help and support her as much as I can, but I feel like I am walking on eggs every time I speak to her. In this way her stress is getting to me. She is now playing this game where she is blaming me for not knowing what is wrong with her, and also not telling me anything – she shuts me out and I feel she is destroying all the closeness we had.
Why is it that we hold on to relationships long past their natural end?
Think of a friendship that no longer exists. Do you still remember how your friend insulted or deserted you? You gained new friends, but you still feel that hurt.
Remember that supervisor who made your life such hell that you left to get a new job? You smile every time you think what a sad sod that supervisor is, and how much better off you are now. Or you still resent the opportunity that you missed as a result of that person, even though you gained much more from the new job than from the old one.
Then of course there is your marriage. You have known for a long time that