I feel worn down both physically and mentally. I can't focus on work. I can't enjoy life.
My partner counts on me to be his rock and support him. I am always expected to "suck up" my problems because he has so many. He tells me that my problems will just add to his stress. I must try and deal with his problems and mine all at once. I don't have anybody to help and support me, because I'm always having to step up and help him.
I keep a lot bottled up inside. A family member recently passed away, but that was quickly overshadowed by his problems. It's like I don't even have time to figure anything out for myself because instantly I'm putting on my support hat and helping him through his issues.
I don't know what to do anymore. I'm physically, mentally and emotionally done.
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I’m hoping you’ll be able to help me. Or maybe it would help that I’m writing this down and telling it to someone, I don’t know. I’m in my early 20’s, female and live in the UK.
I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. About four or five years ago, it was quite debilitating and I found it difficult to concentrate on schoolwork and ended up not attending school very much at all as getting out of bed was such a struggle for me.
Over the last few years though, I’ve found it much more manageable.
However, as we’re entering October, I’m suffering much more than I’ve ever done.
I’m constantly tired and find it too much to concentrate on tasks at work (I work full time as an administration assistant), therefore I fall behind with deadlines.
My sleep pattern is erratic, alternating between not being able to wake up and not being able to get to sleep.
I’m plagued with feelings of despair, as if the world is going to end and have regular panic attacks. I feel tearful or cry at some point every day. I even have a nasty cold sore for the first time in about 7 years.
Aside from my struggling with SAD, I recently came out of a four-year relationship. While the break-up wasn’t acrimonious, we were living together and my ex-boyfriend has now moved out.
I’m trying to adjust to life as a single girl for the first time in four years, but I’m struggling with the fact that I now live alone.
Not only is it lonely and makes me feel somewhat overwhelmed by the thought that it’s just me taking care of myself for once, my income is now, of course, considerably less than before. I can still get by with paying bills and the like, but I’m pinching every penny and it’s leading me to feel worthless and even more depressed.
Now work is also very stressful. Staffing is short and the workload is high and I feel as if I’m running on autopilot.
I’m becoming increasingly concerned that I’m going to burnout or break down, as my daily routine is to get up alone in my flat, head off to work in the ever increasingly darker mornings, work all day in a stressful environment – feeling tired and sluggish, go home to an empty flat, barely be bothered to cook for myself as all I’m craving is junk food that I can’t afford and head to bed early to cry myself to sleep.
I just want some advice as to whether this is just a bad case of SAD or something worse. And what can I do to help minimise my stress?
I just feel trapped and lost.
Thanks for your time.
I have recently discovered meditation and have been meditating for twenty minutes daily for the past two months. I have already experienced some wonderful benefits, for example an increase in my confidence and realizing that I was going to do something wrong before I did it.
I have tried very hard to reach the deep meditative stage where I can directly connect with God and get answers to my questions. At the moment I am going through a lot of changes in terms of my career, and I am really worried about making wrong decisions. I feel that no matter how hard I try to connect to God to get help with these decisions, He is just not there.
What is the process for connecting to God? I am worried that I have selected the wrong career and want God’s opinion before it is too late.
For the past few years I have followed my intuitive side and angelic messages. I have taken courses to open up my healing powers to the world, and to share what I have learnt.
Two years ago I left a very negative job so that I could focus on my intuitive work. I have yet to experience abundance in my finances, despite following everything about the Law of Attraction to the letter. Sometimes I feel someone has placed a curse on me that I cannot escape. What can I do to remove the blockage? What is the blockage?
What do I need to do to grow spiritually and discover my life purpose? How do I know I am on the right path?
I want to understand how the collective consciousness relates to my divine purpose.
I am asking this because of a profound experience I had during a Reiki session. When the Reiki practitioner put her hands over my body, I saw translucent hands covering hers.
The next moment I saw a group of bright, beautiful beings full of Love. I sensed that the group was communicating their thoughts and feelings with me, but one of them led the wordless communication. They told me I was greatly loved.
During this experience I was out of my body and I looked the same way they did, except that they contained more light than I did. At that moment I understood that we are made of the same essence as they are.
They indicated that I was here for a purpose. They did not tell me what that was, and I did not feel a need to ask. They explained that they were always with me in this human experience that can at times be quite difficult.
I felt that I was one with them, but at the same time I did not lose the sense of my separateness as a human being. I felt a deep sense of peace. Before they let, they told me ‘you are a special person’. That peace stayed with me for a while, but then faded. However, the knowledge stayed.
I don’t know whether they were angels, but I like to think of them as the essence of Love.
I want to understand the experience I had. Any thoughts?
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I am a medium but I am not getting an answer for my own problems.
Last year I left three jobs. I was in the first one for two years, but felt that I had overstayed my welcome. I got another job working for a person who made promises but never kept them, and then did not pay me for a month.
I found another job where I earned good money, but the managers in the company felt that it was OK to regularly humiliate people and make them cry. I could not work in a situation like that.
I am worried that I will not find another job. I have never been unemployed before.
I have also recently bought a house with my boyfriend of 8 years, and we are very happy in our relationship. But then I dreamt that a man I went out with 20 years ago wants me back and we were surrounded by a beautiful light. Does that mean anything?
I am curious about measuring spirituality. Everyone seems to talk about spiritual growth and enlightenment nowadays, but there is not much talk about the science required to measure these things.
I see so many people boasting about how spiritual they are, but then they say and do things that are completely the opposite of what they claim to believe or what they sell to others.
How would you measure how spiritual a person is, or whether one person is more spiritual than another?
Or is spirituality just a popular social mask with no basis in reality?
I grew up in an extremely conservative Fundamentalist Christian church. We were not allowed any dancing, smoking, TV, radio, or associating with outsiders, and women were not allowed to wear trousers.
When I was a little girl I was sexually abused by a man in his 60s. I told my parents, but they insisted that it was a bad dream. My mother told me that God and prayer would heal me. As a result I never received therapy.
I spent years avoiding all men and grew up with a total aversion to sex.
I am now nearly 30 and feel lost and detached from my life. I have tried counselling and Christianity but it made no difference. God does not seem to be helping and counselling is very slow and expensive.
I am now in my first relationship and I am going to lose this man because I am disgusted by all forms of affection – even kissing.
I would like to heal my broken spirit and be happy in a relationship. How do I do that?
I am 34 years old. About two months ago my life changed drastically. I went to see a chiropractor for a number of issues, including menstrual problems, knee, back and neck pain, and acid reflux. I have been to other chiropractors and knew what to expect. However, I got more than I bargained for.
My acid reflux is gone. My knee and back feel a lot better. I am much less stressed and feel a lot more relaxed.
The biggest change is in my spiritual life. in the past I was interested in spiritual stuff and I read many books. I got to a point where I thought I had all the knowledge, and I felt no significant difference in my life. I kind of closed off that side of me and just got on with life.
A few weeks ago I started meditating – I never thought I would even try it, but I am really enjoying it and I can feel a change in me. I have also noticed specific numbers coming up around me all the time.
Against that background I want to tell you about two very strange dreams I had recently.
The first was when I woke up at 3am and felt wide awake. I decided to do a guided meditation on my earphones so that I could get back to sleep. That is where things got really strange. I am sure I was awake, but at the same time I was not awake – it is difficult to explain. I know I was lying in my bed, and the words ‘I am ready’ came into my mind. Then suddenly I had a VERY intense feeling throughout my entire body – as if I was vibrating or being electrocuted. It felt incredibly good, and I felt blissful and light. My eyes were closed and I was unable to open them.
I remember a high pitch noise in my one ear, and my hands were shaking so much that I could not keep them on the bed.
I remember thinking that I was probably receiving some kind of energy.
I then woke up and felt incredibly good. I went straight back to sleep and slept for a few hours without any dreams, and woke up feeling refreshed and amazingly good.
The second dream, a few nights later, was much less pleasant. I dreamt of being on a rollercoaster and being very scared. I heard an evil laugh and was so afraid that I was completely paralyzed.
I could see myself lying in bed next to my husband, who was fast asleep. In my dream I was trying to wake him up, but I could not get even a word out. I finally started crying and that woke my husband (in my dream) and all he said was that I must get back to sleep. I finally woke up and wrote the dream down, and then went back to sleep again.
Am I right in connecting these weird dreams with the treatment from the chiropractor?