Have you ever wondered what this ”energy” is that so many people talk about?

I bet you sometimes think they have an over-active imagination.

Try this:  rub your hand palms together vigorously for about 30 seconds.

Then place your hands about a meter apart, palms facing each other.

SLOWLY bring your hand palms closer together.

At some point you will probably feel that your palms are pressing into an invisible air bubble that you can actually play with.

That is the energy field around your body.

Of course you can continue until press your palms together.  The energy does not disappear, it just gets displaced elsewhere.

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Elsabe

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This may seem insignificant, but have you noticed that in nature

there is always an opposite?

There are light and darkness, life and death, winter and summer

(even in the UK, despite what the British people will tell you), and

so the list goes on.

Have you ever thought why we deny this basic law of nature

in our lives and our dealings with people?

A whole industry has been built on positive thinking.  As a result,

when the negative thinking appears, we believe that we failed.

In fact, we deliberately ignored the law of nature which always

requires two sides.

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Elsabe

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Think back to the last time someone really ”pushed your buttons”.

Who was involved?   What did they say or do?  And I bet you were only thinking about the most recent in a row of incidents.

You react with emotion when a person challenges your way of thinking.

The problem is, your way of thinking is based on your own experience.

You have your own perception of your experience, because you were there.

But is your perception correct?  What if there is something behind your perception which tells another story?

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Elsabe

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Emotion is energy in motion.

When you experience any strong emotion, this is reflected in your body.

Imagine feeling happy and smile as big as you can.

Now imagine feeling angry and feel how your entire body changes – not just your face.

When you changed your emotion, your energy was set into motion.

This was reflected in your body.

Imagine harnessing all that energy and using it to achieve what you want!

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Elsabe

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Have you ever thought about how powerful emotions are?

Your greatest achievements depend on how you manage to control and use your emotions.

If you are not fully in charge of your emotions, they will control and use you, and they enjoy stirring trouble.

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Elsabe

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I am always fascinated about how our questions get answered – and sometimes how we are steered in a direction without even asking the question.

Someone very dear and close to me is at a point where he has no dignity or quality of life left. He had told me in so many words that he is not afraid of dying. Yet he is still holding on to life while his mind and body are shutting down at an alarming rate. It breaks my heart to see a man stripped of everything, and to see the effect on other loved people and feel the pain in my heart every time I see him.

I have for a while been preparing myself for his transition, and I have wondered what it is that is holding him back. And no, this is not wishing him dead, this is wishing him a peaceful and pain-free transition into the next part of his life.

I recently browsed in a second-hand bookstore and found one of those gems written about the spiritual experiences of a religious family. I find that those books have much credibility because they do not try to prove a point. They simply record the experiences of people trying to make sense out of things that they have encountered for the first time – a sort of “I am telling you I saw it – even if I still don’t believe it myself – and I was sober” story.

I read the book because I was on holiday and it was an easy read. Nothing in the book was new to me. The story was about a young man who died in a car accident and then made contact with his family via a medium. The family did not believe in anything spiritual and the medium, who had one chance encounter with the man’s father about ten years before, contacted them on the insistence of the young man.

Then I encountered one sentence that made me sit up. The context was where a family friend, a medical doctor, explained his soul searching around being obliged to try and save the life of a patient who seems to be beyond saving. He often experienced the dilemma of having to practise his professional oath of saving a life when his heart said that it was inhuman to prolong the suffering of a person.

The young man in the spirit world explained that no matter what the doctor or other people do, a person will only pass over when they give themselves permission at soul level. And that will only happen when that person’s soul is ready to pass over.

Until that point, nothing that anyone says or does will make any difference to the timescale or destiny of the sick person. If the doctor tries to lengthen the person’s life, they will pass over at a certain time. If the doctor does not provide any treatment, the person will pass over at the same pre-destined time, when they agree at soul level that this is the time.

I realised that no matter what I want, my loved one will pass over when his work here is done. His current physical and emotional conditions are part of a much bigger Plan that is there, regardless of what I want. The circumstances are there because every one of us that are involved still needs to learn some truths. I feel much gratitude for this insight.

This also made me think about other things not related to death, but related to transitions.

We are all here because we have planned specific experiences for ourselves. We learn from those experiences and become lighter and wiser. Sometimes we get stuck in the experiences and we do not learn and move on.

We all know of those people who are caught up in a destructive relationship or a totally unsuitable job. Some people insist on defining themselves by means of a dis-ease that is curable, and others keep failing in the same situations, for example serial marriages or continuous financial mishaps.

We have all at some stage wondered why those people do not realise what they do to themselves and others. We have become impatient with them, and had harsh words with them. We have seen them going for therapy and having no results, or refusing therapy because “there is nothing wrong with me!” We have deserted and tolerated them. We have given up on them, been entertained by their mishaps, and accepted them as failures.

We never realised that they will change when they have given themselves permission at soul level. If a person remains stuck in a situation, then it is because at soul level they are not ready to move on. Nothing any relative, therapist, government or anyone else says or does will change that.

And we also seldom realise that we are aware of these “failures” because it is part of our Plan to learn from them. It is far easier to judge them than to use their experiences to learn our own lessons.

But what have we done closer to home?

I know I have been working very hard on my own transition. I am aware of what my destiny is, and I am finally willing to accept it – I am no longer kicking and screaming. I have been quite impatient over the past year or two, waiting for the inevitable to happen so that I can start with the biggest and most significant task of my entire life – my life purpose and passion. I have begged and pushed and capitulated and prayed, but things were still much too slow for my liking.

I have now realised that everything happens at the destined pace. I have learnt so much about myself in the past few years. If everything was already in place and happening, I would have missed out on incredible experiences. My life would have lost a richness of texture and fragrance and colour that I noticed because everything had slowed down.

My soul knows far better than my mind what the perfect timing is. That does not mean I am no longer impatient – I still have a lot to learn.

I now understand more about the relationship between our existence here and our eternal existence. Trying to force things in this existence because we are impatient is like trying to give birth to a foetus the moment it resembles a person on the scan. If the time is not right yet, our actions will destroy a miracle.

Acceptance is probably one of the hardest things we need to learn.

In the film “A Passage to India” a young doctor is accused of raping a young English woman. He is obviously innocent, but there is much hypocrisy and various political agendas result in a nasty trial.

In all this turmoil, the Brahim professor Godbole approaches school superintendent Richard Fielding to discuss the naming of a government school. The professor acts as if there is no trial and no turmoil. When Fielding asks him how he can focus on something as trivial as naming a school in the circumstances, the professor replies that the outcome of the trial is predestined. The professor knows that nothing he can do will change the doctor’s destiny, whether he is found innocent or guilty.

In our daily lives there are things that are less relevant, for example which flavour of ice cream I choose while on holiday. I would not agonize over such a choice, and my ice cream will not change my destiny.

Then there are things that are more relevant, for example the lessons we need to learn from complex relationships. We could choose to agonize over this, but it would still not change our destiny. Accepting this could take a lifetime, or as long as it takes for our souls to evolve to the level where we can let go and accept. Only at this point will we give ourselves permission at soul level to move on.

Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.

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Elsabe

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Yes, I do.

Throughout my life I have had to deal with bullies. Some of my first memories are of my mother mistreating me physically and emotionally. I encountered numerous bullies as colleagues, and too many of them used me for target practice. I also married a man who nearly destroyed me emotionally, and I had other relationships and friendships that did nothing for my self-esteem.

The treatment I had from my mother led me to much introspection. I just could not understand why she disliked me so much. It took me years to realise that her role in my life was to teach me to understand my own value. I had to realise that my self-worth does not come from the people in my life, but from the way I look at myself. Do I recognise my own worth? Or do I wait for others to convince me that God knew what he was doing when he created me?

My mother has since passed on, and with my understanding of her behaviour came peace. We now have a good relationship and I honour her as one of the greatest teachers of my life.

I recently had a fascinating experience. I was on an overnight flight from Johannesburg to Istanbul. When I checked in I asked for an aisle seat because I like to stretch my legs without disturbing other passengers. I was told that there were no aisle seats available.

Early on in the flight, I noticed a vacant aisle seat three rows back from where I was sitting. There was a man sitting in the window seat. I asked a stewardess whether I could move to the aisle seat, and she said it was OK.

There were some newspapers and overnight blankets on the seat. The man in the window seat made no effort to remove these items and just looked at me picking up the newspapers and blankets and putting them under the seat. He was wide awake while I sat down and fastened my seatbelt.

I settled down and fell asleep.

About three hours later the man woke me up because he wanted to go to the toilet. I got up to let him pass. He stood in the aisle and told me that I had stepped on his newspapers which he had paid for (to me they looked just like the newspapers that the staff handed out after take-off. They were Turkish newspapers and the man spoke with an accent that gave away the fact that English was not his first language.) He demanded in a loud voice that I pick up the newspapers and put them where I found them. He then pranced away to the toilet.

My first concern was for the rest of the passengers. Nobody wants a fuss at 2.30am in a confined space. I picked up the newspapers and put them on the man’s seat. I also had the distinct impression that this man had been badly hurt by someone and that he was very angry at life in general.

When he returned from the toilet, he told me that I had taken his blanket that was also on the seat and demanded in a very loud voice that I move back to my original seat. I picked up one of the two sealed blankets from under the seat and handed the blanket to the man, still saying nothing.

The man demanded again that I move back to my original seat. I calmly asked him how many seats he had paid for, and this resulted in another tirade. I then told him that I had permission to use the seat.

He went to sit down, and slammed the newspapers onto my seat. I sat down, held the newspapers out to him and politely asked whether he wanted the newspapers on his lap or on the floor. He grabbed the newspapers and bundled them into the seat pocket in front of me. He then told me that I was “unmannered” – I think he meant disobedient. I did not respond to any of this and simply settled down to sleep again. I fell asleep immediately.

When we were served breakfast the next morning, the man had two bread rolls and I had none. I offered him my butter, but he only mumbled and did not even look up.

At this point the cabin lights were on, and I could get a better view of the man. He was one of those men who are balding and refusing to accept the fact. One of the first things he did was to meticulously comb his remaining hair to cover his bald spot. I also noticed that he looked slightly sleazy, even though his suit was obviously expensive. I had a feeling that he was quite insecure, and that my lack of response to his bullying probably added to his insecurity. I felt sorry for him.

As we left the plane, I noticed him fawning over a young woman who looked slightly frightened. I had the impression that they were colleagues, and I realised that his middle-of-the-night tirade was probably also aimed at proving some point to her, because she was sitting opposite the aisle in the same row and had heard everything.

Two days after the incident I still caught myself thinking about the incident. I was wondering why I was giving a complete stranger so much head space.

Then I realised that my memories were focused on my own inner experience and not on the man. I remembered how I felt during the entire incident. It was as if I was outside of my body, looking on to the situation. I felt complete peace and tranquillity while this man was ranting – as if it was happening to someone else.

Most of what I recalled from the incident focused on the fact that I did not respond to the man’s insults and attitude. I felt no emotion. I felt no desire to attack him, or even to defend myself. I felt like a spectator standing on a river bank, watching a branch swirling and desperately trying to latch onto anything that would get it out of the turmoil of the water.

I realised that this incident underlined a closing chapter in my own life. I had dealt with all the bullies in my life and moved on. I had thanked them all for teaching me very valuable lessons about myself. I thanked them with pure gratitude and no condescension.

I felt that this man was some sort of final test for me. He did his best to needle me with very unreasonable behaviour, and I barely noticed it. I did not feel threatened at all. I did not feel hurt. I felt his own deep hurt and my heart went out to him. During the entire incident and afterwards I found myself in a place where there is only peace, tranquillity and compassion.

When I discovered all this, I felt a deep gratitude and Love. I realised that I had already closed the book on the life theme of being bullied and discovering my self-worth.

I am ready to move on and use this experience to help others achieve the same inner peace.

Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.

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Elsabe

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By now we all know the Secret: decide what you want, and believe that it will come your way. The more you believe, the quicker it comes your way. Right? Then why does it not work? Why are we not all very rich and healthy and happy by now?

There are a few other factors that we need to be aware of when we want to apply the Secret.

The first factor is our own resistance against anything new. You say you don’t resist anything new? OK, let’s try this. Let me tell you that I have discovered the cure for all cancers. What are your immediate thoughts?

I bet you have a number of “yes, but” and “what if” thoughts in your head. Now, if I did discover the cure for cancer and you had cancer, that cure would not work for you, because your thoughts block the cure.

This is the case with everything we want in this life. We intuitively know that everything is possible. We then consciously place obstacles in the way. These obstacles range from emotional to financial to scientific and other “facts”.

Why do I doubt the validity of those “facts”?

Imagine the existence of a quantum vacuum in which everything is possible. Just for a moment put all your doubts aside and play along. Now imagine that you want nothing, and that all you ever have to do is listen for the vibration of that quantum vacuum.

Whenever the quantum vacuum vibrates, you identify that vibration. You identify the fact that there is an opportunity, and conditions are perfect for you to create what you want. You can create an object, an experience, a person, a feeling, anything that would please you at that moment.

What do you do with that vibration?

Do you feel the vibration with deep gratitude and create what you feel like at the moment?

The answer is probably “no”. At this point your brain kicks in and interprets that perfect vibration. Then you embroider on that perfect vibration until it becomes what you expect, based on your own past experience and anticipation of the future. By the time you are finished, the vibration has lost its perfection and become your creature – your monster.

Sometimes those expectations are so subtle that you are barely aware of it, and you have to do a lot of introspection to identify the obstacle and put it into words. For example, if you live in a reality where most people share the same beliefs, and you “know” only the minority of people win the lottery. But what are your own beliefs about gambling, creation, your personal power, money and so on? What do you truly believe?

At other times your expectations are very clear, and you can list a dozen reasons why you have never won the lottery, including a conspiracy theory and the very good reasons why you never buy a ticket.

What are you doing about these beliefs? Do you justify them, or do you see them as the obstacles you create yourself every time you feel the quantum vibration?

Another thing that impacts on the success of applying the Secret is your own intention when you choose what you want. Do you choose with a sense of a purpose and a deep sense of knowing that what you ask for already is? Or do you wish and wish and wish with a sense of desperation for something that will help you escape the mess you do not want to deal with?

If you want one thing to escape something else, stop wasting your energy. Rather deal with what you have already created. Get your existing obstacles out of the way. Acknowledge the perceptions and biased judgement that you have right now, and get that out of the way.

Then wait for that quantum vibration, and when you feel it, remember that the quantum vibration creates conditions for creation. You do the creation. Do you want to create doubts and obstacles, or do you want to create joy and gratitude?

A third factor is what I call the “Hidden plan”. We come into this life with a pre-destined agenda. As we grow up, we develop a cultural “amnesia” of our own plan. We assume the general thinking that life is hard, and we focus on winning the struggle.

If we change that assumption to say that life is a lesson in eternity, we start to look out for the lesson. We become aware of the experiences, people and things that will bring us closer to the conclusion of the lesson. When we have this awareness, we are in a much better position to recognise the quantum vibration when we feel it. We become aware of where we are and where we are heading. We interpret the quantum vibration in line with what we intuitively feel is our destiny for this life, and we create people, experiences and things which bring us closer to that destiny. This is when we use the Secret to live our life plan.

The one factor that always results in the Secret not working, is the thoughts we attach to the quantum vibration. The Secret works simply because we allow it to work. We have the power, and the power lies in our thoughts processes.

The Secret always works, then we attach thoughts to the result based on our own prejudices and fears, then we put these objections in words, and then we take the action to prove ourselves right. In other words, step one is successful, and then we use steps two, three and four to disprove step one’s success.

We are weird creatures. We spend 1% of our time listening to the quantum vibration, 49% of the time creating our own stress and disappointment, and 50% of the time searching for a culprit. And we are the only ones who can change that.

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Elsabe

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I was reading about survivor’s guilt and the part it plays in redundancy.

Whenever people are made redundant, there are big newspaper headlines that tell about fear for those who are leaving. There is a lot of finger-pointing and blame for the management of the company.

Quite often the atmosphere in the company is one of palpable fear, and during the process there is a definite “us and them” culture where those that remain behind don’t speak to those that are leaving.

The people who are made redundant, often feel that they are “guilty” if something intangible. Once they lave left the company under these conditions, it could take ages for them to recover their self-confidence and pride in their abilities.

From my own experience, I know that redundancy can be a spiritual and very enriching experience.

I have learnt over the years that redundancy is the Universe’s way to give us a nudge when it is time to move on and we choose to cling to what is no longer relevant or required.

Job was a man who suffered a lot in his life. It is interesting that when we work as an employee, we refer to our labour as a “job”.

On the other hand, a self-employed person is known as an entrepreneur (meaning “founder”). What have they found? Their life purpose? Their destiny?

One of the most powerful ways to “find yourself” is to be made redundant. When you are selected for such an experience, you can spend much energy trying to find someone to blame, or you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and find your true self.

I have thought for years that I would like to look up the company director who made me redundant after I had implemented a big project successfully. I would like to give him a case of his favourite whiskey, because if he had ensured my job safety, I would have disappeared into the oblivion of permanent employment. I owe him a lot.

Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.

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Elsabe

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Frank Joseph said “Following a vocation, that inner call, is not self-indulgence or an excuse for laziness. Doing what one really wants to do is hard work, but it is self-fulfilling as nothing else can be. It is the ultimate key to personal happiness in the physical world.”

Most of us grow up believing that we have to work for another person. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as you live your life’s passion. It is possible to be a very competent employee and get great joy out of what you are doing.

But what if you do not live your life’s passion? What if you are one of the millions of people who get up every Monday morning and dread the week ahead because you anticipate so much stress?

If you are one of the people who spend all your energy on realizing someone else’s passion, then you are not living an authentic life. You are ignoring your inner voice and your passion.

If I ask what you would like to do with your life when you have all the time and money in the world and no restrictions, you will have an answer ready. We all know what we want to do “one day”.

But what if that is really your life’s dream? What if you spend most of your life dreaming and you only have a few years left for doing?

Oh, yes, I can hear you saying but what if I lose everything? What if it does not work out? What if I find that I was wrong?

Marianne Williamson said “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

So I ask you: what if you gain far more than you anticipate? What if you achieve your wildest dreams? What if you are challenged to achieve even more and to make an ever greater contribution to the world?

Living an authentic life means following your heart. Are you following your heart?

Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.

Love and Light
Elsabe

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