My relationship has been going nowhere for the past few months.
My partner and I have been going through rough times for various reasons, but we are not really talking to each other.
Should I stay or go?
I had a short and - for me – very happy relationship with a woman. She ended it a few months ago.
I was hoping that we could continue as friends, but that was not to happen. I am really struggling to put her and the relationship behind.
I have been using visualization and having a more positive outlook on life and it has made a difference, but not enough.
How do I put this relationship behind me?
I am not sure whether I am stressed out.
I have been with my boyfriend for three years now and we have a two-year-old son.
My problem is that I have too much to do. My boyfriend and I both work full-time. When we get home, I have to cook and clean and attend to my son. It feels like I just cannot stay ahead with the cleaning and stuff. I am tired, my son nags and all I can do is shouting at him.
My boyfriend will occasionally bath my son when he is not too tired from work. He is very messy and does not clean up after himself, making even more work for me.
I have no time to just relax, and would love to go to the gym again, because I enjoy it, but then there is nobody to look after my son.
I am seriously thinking of leaving my boyfriend, because at least then I only need to look after my son and myself.
Do you have any advice for me?
I met this incredible girl when I was in college, and I really care deeply about her. It is a second relationship for both of us. Her first relationship was long-distance. He started cheating on her after a few months, and she had no idea about it. She even went to visit him and as far as she was concerned they were very happy. He then dumped her just after her birthday.
I knew her at the time but our relationship only started a while after hers ended. We were very happy initially, but then I finished my studies. Because of finances I had to move back home, and this means I am only able to visit her every two months. I am now saving money so that we can move in together soon. We do communicate regularly with IM, video and phone, but it is not the same. I feel I am losing out because I cannot see her face or hear her voice, and that causes misunderstandings that turn out to be quite hurtful for both of us.
She still has her studies and she works two jobs to earn some money. She comes home late at night when her family is already asleep, and she has nobody to talk to.
I am very concerned that she is more and more depressed, and on top of that she is turning into a nasty piece of work - even her friends complain about her behavior.
I really want to help and support her as much as I can, but I feel like I am walking on eggs every time I speak to her. In this way her stress is getting to me. She is now playing this game where she is blaming me for not knowing what is wrong with her, and also not telling me anything – she shuts me out and I feel she is destroying all the closeness we had.
I am a medical doctor. I report to another doctor who completed his studies a year before I completed mine. While we were studying, he was allocated to be my mentor during his final year. He criticized me a lot (and still does), but it helps me to improve and I didn’t mind.
Since I have finished my studies I have been working with him on the same team in the hospital and we often put in long hours together. He once said in a social conversation with colleagues that he has not found a female doctor who is his type, and that he would rather not date another doctor. I know he is involved with an architect.
My problem is that I have feelings for him, and I find it more and more difficult to hide my feelings when I work with him. How can I control my feelings when I am in his presence?
You are ready for a relationship when you are ready to face the fantasy as well as the nightmare. Any relationship teaches us wisdom about ourselves.
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