We all want to spread joy in the world, right?
And we all are on social media where this is as easy as pressing a button, right? Wrong. So far I know seven people who are not on Facebook. How in the world do they keep up with family gossip and world politics?
Jokes aside, I often see “spiritual” posts on social media that makes it clear the creator or sender is not familiar with spiritual laws, and they don’t think before they spread the words.
Here is an innocent-looking meme I found on a social media group:
“To protect your energy: It’s okay to cancel a commitment. It’s okay to not answer a call. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to want to be alone. It’s okay to take a day off. It’s okay to do nothing. It’s okay to speak up. It’s okay to let go.”
The first three statements don’t protect your energy. On the contrary. They compromise the universal law of “Say what you do and do what you say”, and they create an energy blockage, for which you then need to face the consequences. That is not okay in any shape or form.
When you have made a commitment, then only the direst circumstances must be a reason for not honoring that commitment. I saw a video the other day of a young black American who found getting a job quite a challenge because of unemployment and racism. He finally landed a job in a town twenty miles away and was quite excited about it. It was a typical first job with a furniture removal company which required carrying and lifting all sorts of items with care for hours on end. He did not mind, because it was his job and he had a job.
The night before he got everything ready, and set out his clothes. He needed to run an errand with the car he was going to get to work, and discovered the car had broken down. He called around to find a friend who could give him a lift, with no luck. And there was no public transport.
What did he do? In his mind there was only one thing to do – start walking. That is what he did around midnight – because he had a job and a commitment. At dawn he was stopped by a police officer on patrol, because he was a black man and out of place. He told the officer what had happened and why he was in the area.
The officer took him to a diner and bought him breakfast. Because of bureaucratic restrictions he could not take the young man all the way to work.
The young man hit the road again. Another officer – who had heard about this from the first officer – found the young man a couple of miles further on and was able to drop him off at work – much earlier than he was meant to be there.
Imagine being black in an area where racism is rife, and arriving at your place of work in the back of a police car! However, the story did not stop here.
To avoid any issues, the police officer contacted the owner of the business to explain why his new employee arrived for work in a police car.
The young man put in a full day’s work of hard labor and sweat, because he had a job and he gave his word. He had no idea how he was going to get home, but that did not interfere with his work performance.
The owner went out to meet the young man at the end of his shift. He not only expressed his gratitude to the young man for making such an effort to get to work – he also gave the young man a car that he drove home with that night.
What can I say? When you say what you do and then do what you say, the Universe delivers on the bargain. You might not get a car for free, but reneging on your commitment is not an option – ever.
Yes. It was OK not to answer a call before the age of mobile phones. Nowadays you don’t ignore a call. If you don’t want to answer a call, then switch off your phone and ensure you have voicemail on. Not answering a call while you hang the washing or have a bath is OK, but then you phone back at the first opportunity. Simply choosing to not answer calls is a violation of the universal law. If you really don’t want to take a call from a person, you have the option to block that person on your phone. However, even when you do so, ask yourself why, until you understand what emotions the caller evokes and why you don’t want to deal with the person.
Yes, it’s OK to change your mind, but ensure that you first say what you do, and then do what you say. If you say one thing and then do another thing without warning, the message to the world is simple: You are unreliable. Do it often enough, and the message will come back to you clearly from your interactions with family, friends and work colleagues.
There is another meme which people send round without thinking:
“Religion is for people who are afraid of hell. Spirituality is for people who have been through hell.”
The implication is clearly that spirituality is superior to religion, and people who profess to be spiritual have had superior experiences. That is so far from the truth.
I know religious people who are far more spiritual than they would acknowledge, and they are comfortable in their religious practices. They have a different way of thinking, but that does not make them wrong – just as a spiritual lifestyle doesn’t make anybody right.
The more I read and educate myself, the more I discover that the main religions contain the same truths. No, religion is not for me, because I don’t feel I can embrace everything in any one of the religions I have studied. I can embrace everything I have learnt and experienced about spirituality so far, but I have also discovered through spirituality how much truth there is in the main religious texts.
Religion – any religion – and spirituality are simply different facets of the same diamond. Who are you to say that one facet on a diamond is superior to another?
Here is another one:
“How people treat you is all about them and nothing about you.”
Not true. This implies that you are perfect, and people who don’t treat you as perfect are wrong about you.
How people treat you is about the contract which you have with each of these people. Therefore all interactions are about them as well as about you.
If people treat you with disrespect, ask yourself whether you act and talk in such a way that you earn respect all the time. Or are they with their behavior reflecting back to you what you send into the world, namely that your words and actions don’t reflect respect?
If you believe the meme, you absolve yourself from any introspection, and you give yourself permission to act in ways that may be very hurtful to people.
You also ignore the Golden Rule, namely to do unto others what you want to have done unto yourself.
Before you hit the share button next time, ask yourself whether you fully resonate with everything in the meme, and whether the meme complies with universal spiritual law.