There is a difference between emotions and feelings. Did you know there are over 3000 words in the English language that describe emotions? Emotions are energy in motion, and they get us into trouble all the time because when we have emotions, we have knee-jerk reactions.
Try this. Express anger as you read this. It doesn’t matter what you are angry at. Just express anger. Notice how your body and your face instinctively know what to do. You know exactly which of the muscles in your face to use, and how to use them, so that nobody will be in any doubt that you are angry. See what happens to your breathing and your body. Your body knows the difference between angry and happy and will follow your command.
You can do the same for any other emotion, such as sad, excited, lonely and so on.
All those are emotions. Then what is a feeling? Think back to the most amazing time in your life. Was it your first kiss? Or the first time you held your child in your arms? Wat is when you got married? You know when what you felt was beyond words.
Now tell your body to go back to that moment and express that moment in your face, breathing and muscles. Not that easy, huh? In fact, I would be surprised if you can mimic even 1% of what you felt at that moment. Describing it as “happy” would be like describing the ocean as “wet” - it just wouldn’t work. Those are moments that you cannot express in words, and your body cannot enter that state on command. Those are feelings. They lasted anywhere from a few minutes to maybe a week - where you felt that you were walking on clouds and it was out of this world. You experienced heaven.
You need to grasp this before you can understand how to work towards creating gratitude.
Gratitude is not just another emotion on the list. Gratitude is a process that happens in your body, and when you have experienced gratitude, you cannot go back to any other past state of mind or body.
Now is a wonderful time to practice working on gratitude. Identify the one issue or experience around you right now that causes you the most emotional discomfort whether it is fear, anxiety, depression or whatever you are feeling but don’t want to feel. Experience that feeling in every cell of your body. Write down something that is bad or intolerable in the situation. For example, you cannot shake hands with people. Then find the opposite of that experience that you can observe - if not in yourself, then in other people. For example, whenever you cannot shake hands, you find yourself looking the person in the eyes, and you suddenly realise how much you have not observed before in other people.
Now do this again and again - at least fifty times. For example, you cannot find your favourite fast food in the store - and you discover a different type of food that is equally tasty, and that you have ignored or not noticed before.
It is important to take one item at a time - in other words, don’t rush down a list of negatives, and then go back to the first one and try to think of a positive to counterbalance it. You take one item at a time and find the balance.
Then you observe the magic that happens in you as you go through the exercise. One thing is that you break down your fears as you built them up - one brick at a time.
The second thing is that the more you do this, the more you find balance in every cell of your body - even if you think you only apply your mind while doing the exercise. There will come a moment when you reach the end of the exercise - not when you decide you have had enough, but when you feel the effect in your body. It is difficult to put into words but think of a magic explosion of light in every cell of your body. Suddenly you get that floating feeling, and you have complete perspective on the situation - more than ever before - and not a shred of the original emotion remains.
The physical effect is that a quantum of light is created in every cell of your body. As a result, your body vibration goes up - and that is permanent - it never goes down to a previous level again.
So yes, you can create gratitude, but gratitude is not just another emotion - it is a feeling that you can work towards, until you feel it.
Will this gratitude last? Yes - for anything from a few minutes to a week. And then you start again - because you are still in this life, and that is how life works. However, every time you do this, it becomes easier, it expands your consciousness, and your body vibration increases. Is that something you can look forward to and work towards?