You will not forgive them as long as the focus is on them rather than on you.
I recently read a very interesting book, The Bookseller of Kabul, written by Åsne Seierstad. The book provides a snapshot of an Afghan family and their daily lives. From a Western point of view the patriarchal society and the oppression of both women and men is probably shocking, but for those people it is a way of life.
The book raised an interesting question for me. The question does not only cover large issues such as