Message received from the Pleiades on 26th January 2012:
“What does loving your neighbour mean? And who is your neighbour? This is another aspect of Love that we want to explain.
Your neighbour is really everyone on this planet, including tyrants, fraudsters, philosophers, bigamists – no matter how you want to label them.
Loving everyone on the planet is an easy task – as is proven by politicians all the time. Loving your neighbour is much more complex, because your neighbour includes family members, friends, the trouble-makers in your community and even your own body.
Here is your task for today: make a list of the people that you find difficult to Love, even though you know you are obliged to. Make a list of the people you Love but don’t like right now.
What do all these people have in common? You. If anything needs to change, you do,
How do you need to change? Ask yourself why you do not Love these people. In what way do you judge them? Then work on acceptance. Accept them as being different from you, and therefore complementing you. They will not change. You will need to change your view of them.
No, you do not need to do this all at once. Do it for one person at a time, and see how your Love grows.
Remember the last time you did something and succeeded purely based on your willpower? Can you remember what hard work it was? You had to focus very hard and harness a lot of energy. You had to be single-minded and dedicated.
Can you remember how you felt when you reached your goal? There was not only elation, but also exhaustion, because it was hard work. You also had the satisfaction of knowing that you had created the outcome. All this happened because you had used your willpower.
Some people give that willpower away. They enter into a relationship (at work, personal, friendship) with a person who makes choices on their behalf. They get bullied or dragged into directions that they know are not right for them. They work very hard to pacify the keeper of their willpower, and that drains their energy. At the same time they make half-hearted attempts to get their willpower back to where it belongs – in their own control.
When you do not understand that you have handed your willpower over to another person, you feel like a victim, exhausted and not in control. You use the same amount of energy you would use if you were the keeper of your willpower, but you go in the wrong direction for the wrong reasons. This is physically and emotionally painful.
Understanding what you have done is the first step towards cutting the ties with the keeper of your willpower. Of course this can be painful, but at the point where the pain is most intense, the release is also most intense and you become truly free. And your willpower returns where it belongs – to you, the rightful owner.
Because willpower is seated in the solar plexus, returning your willpower to its rightful place also means the end of various digestive issues.
Even if you have lost temporary custody of your willpower, it is still yours and you can reclaim it any time.
Love and Light
Elsabe
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Some people are real “suckers for punishment” – like those women who keep going back to partners that abuse them physically and verbally. And there are men as well that stay with abusive partners, or people that stay in jobs or in friendships where they are bullied.
No, I am not judging them. I also have a lot of empathy for them, because it took me years to shake off two abusive relationships, many destructive work environments and some feel-bad friendships, even after I had recognized what was happening. I was also a “sucker for punishment”.
In this case there is more truth in that expression, “sucker for punishment“, than we may realize.
We are all One and part of the same perfect diamond that is called God – or any other name that you know Him/Her by. All of us are required to form this perfect diamond, and the diamond would be flawed if any one of us is different or missing. Abusers also form part of the same diamond, and they are also part of our Oneness.
When we are in any type of relationship with a person, we have an additional bond with that person – over and above the one we have with all humanity. Imagine that bond to be like a very strong silver cord that ties two people together. That cord exists between the abuser and the abused, just like it exists between two married people that have been in a happy relationship for forty or more years.
We enter into relationships because we know intuitively that we need the other person to learn important things about ourselves, and to help us get a balance in ourselves that we would otherwise miss.
Why would anyone willingly enter into an abusive relationship? Even when people close to you warn you of what they can see but you cannot? And why would anyone stay in that relationship even when their physical and emotional safety is on line?
Because we are “suckers for punishment”. That silver cord is firmly in place, and it literally sucks us back to the other person until we either realize that we no longer need them and move on, or until there is an incident that weighs more than the pull from that cord, for example when our lives are threatened.
That cord is based in the solar plexus chakra, where our will power is seated. All the time while the cord is in place and we stay in an abusive relationship, we hand our own personal power over to the other person.
When the solar plexus chakra is open and healthy, we understand that we are in charge of our own lives and that we can make our own decisions. We then contribute to a relationship in equal measures, and we understand that we are in the first place individuals, and in the second place part of a relationship.
When the solar plexus chakra is blocked and not healthy, we often believe that we are powerless and that we just have to suffer the punishment that is meted out to us by our partners – or even by work colleagues or other family members that abuse us. The silver cord ties us to those people as well and not just to partners in a love relationship.
That is why people tend to stay in an abusive relationship for long times, and why they often go back even when they do get the courage to move out. They are pulled back by this cord that ties them to the abuser, because physical distance from an abuser does not change the belief that they are powerless. Physical distance does not stop them handing their power over to the abuser, because physical distance is a man-made concept and not real. That silver cord is real.
Once the change happens in the person and he/she starts to understand that they have a personal power and they take that power back, the solar plexus chakra starts to function normally. Then the person gets the courage to leave the relationship. This could mean getting a divorce, changing jobs if the abuser is a work colleague, or breaking off ties – yes, that is literally what happens – with an abusive friend or family member.
Sometimes that realization of having personal power takes too long, and we are forcibly removed from the situation, for example we face the wrong end of a fire-arm and flee to safety, and that gives us the courage to stay away from the abuser and heal the solar plexus chakra. Or we get dismissed from a job and discover that we are better off in a different job. Even then, it could take years to find our balance again.
The question is: why is this kind of information not available to us when we most need it? Why is the understanding and the healing not available much earlier?
I suppose that is where our karma comes in – we need the experiences to find a balance with previous experiences. We choose our lives and our experiences, and at times it is hard to remember that all our experiences and our entire lives are perfect for our purpose in this life.
Love and Light
Elsabe
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Why is it that some women find it so difficult to let go of a man who is not interested in a relationship with them?
I often speak to women who have their eye on a particular man who is not responsive. These women will do anything to get the man to respond to them. They will think about him all the time, and even send him long emails and regular text messages. When they get no response or a non-committal response, they look for ways to make the man love them.
Most of the time these women don’t want to hear that the man is not interested in a relationship with them – and often not even in a friendship.
And the poor man cannot run away fast or far enough. Often their only “sin” was a friendly greeting or an innocent compliment.
When a man says “you look beautiful today”, it is not a marriage proposal. It is also not the beginning of a relationship. It is often not even interest in you as a potential partner. It is just a bit of flattery.
When a woman regards the most insignificant attention from a man as the beginning of something serious, that woman needs to ask herself why she so desperately needs attention and confirmation from someone else to establish her self-worth.
Even in our enlightened age men don’t like to be the prey. A small handful of men are egotistic enough to enjoy the attention, but even these men feel crowded soon enough.
In one instance a woman told me that she knew the man was going to marry her, because even though they had not had contact for over ten years, she is convinced of their “spiritual connection”.
I have no doubt that such a “spiritual connection” exists between these women and the men who spend much energy evading them.
Sadly the connection is one-sided – the woman fixates on the man and gets all her energy from him. This must leave the man tired for no obvious reason, because he may not be consciously aware of the woman using him as a source of energy.
I always ensure that any guidance I give to clients is honest and responsible. It is immensely frustrating to deal with clients who do not hear a word I am saying, and who want to blame me for not helping them to get any interest from the man.
If such clients then leave me because I did not tell them what they wanted to hear, I count my blessings. To me it means that they will not use me as a source of energy, and I can help other people.
If a woman needs to get her energy from another person, she also needs to work on her self-belief. We all are able to generate our own energy and share it with others. Where a woman believes that she is not capable of generating her own energy, she often suppresses the energy that she has. This makes her less creative, and such energy blockages can result in dis-ease of the female reproductive systems.
I have seen countless instances where such women discovered their own strength outside of a relationship and then had a lovely relationship with a man who wanted to be with them. such an equal partnership works far better than a predator=prey situation which eventually results in energy blockages in both partners.
If you are waiting for a specific man to show some fleeting interest in you again, my recommendation is to forget him, and find an interesting hobby to spend your time and energy on.
Before you know it you will be pursued and wooed for the interesting person you are, rather than be avoided for the desperate person you were.
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What happened to your New Year’s resolutions for last year? Can you remember how long they lasted? And can you remember how you felt when you realised that you had failed in keeping them? You failed yourself.
Why did you make those resolutions in the first place? Of course, you made them because there was a particular part of your life that caused you much stress. Your solution was to make just one change. You fooled yourself into thinking that one change would make everything all right.
And when the change did not last, the situation was actually much worse, because you now felt even more like a failure.
For many people the only reflection they do in the New Year relates to the amount they drank (again) and how they never learn.
Other people do not even tell anyone what their New Year’s resolutions are, because they know from experience that the resolutions will not last into the New Year.
I went through the same vicious cycle for a significant part of my life. I believed that I was powerless to influence the outcome of anything, and therefore I had to just make the best of it.
The more I played the victim, the more I became a victim. I had to learn a few very hard life lessons before I realised that there is a plan behind every one of my experiences.
It was so interesting to note how groups of bad experiences dwindled the moment I “got the message”.
The more I delved into this, the more I discovered a different reality that made complete sense to me.
My own research has uncovered a massive body of knowledge that I started to apply in my own life. I came to see more patterns, more processes, more relationships between people and nature. I became aware of a different reality.
I learnt that some things happen to us because they are inevitable, while other things happen to us because they are part of a much bigger plan. I learnt how to distinguish between the things I had to change and the things I had to accept.
The result was that I no longer make any New Year’s resolutions. I no longer need them. Instead, I become aware of my life plan, and I allow thoughts and ideas to bubble to the surface. I then pick and choose what I want, and see how the thoughts become actions.
A significant outcome for me is significantly reduced stress, and significantly increased peace of mind and contentment.
If you want some ideas on how to reduce your own stress significantly and create the best New Year ever, please contact me for some great ideas.
Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am a professional transition coach. I help individuals and businesses to achieve their personal and commercial objectives.
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