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Murder, yes. Divorce, never (2)

admin — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 06:10:25 +0000

Hello Lovely People

Continued

Two: A marriage certificate is a legal contract, not a death sentence. The contract is not a guarantee against change. The contract only spells out what the initial agreement was, and in some instances it also documents the agreement on a potential outcome. The contract does not say that you will die if you are in breach. Experience says that you may die from ill health if you insist on never ending the contract and clinging to it at all costs. It’s your call.

Three: There are two people in a marriage. They either grow together, or they grow apart. That is life. When you allow a whole community or society into the marriage, then nobody grows, except in terms of the amount of fear of change that they gather and share.

Every relationship has a natural life cycle. That includes a marriage. If people manage to let go of their fantasies and accept what comes natural, the end of a marriage will be accepted as a wonderful growth experience.

What we have instead is often a prolonged nightmare that is dictated to society by people who either vowed never to marry but made the rules, or who spend lots of energy upholding their own fantasy in the eyes of the world.

Here endeth the sermon.

Now get yourself a coach who understands that divorce is both the end of the world as you know it, and also a tremendous opportunity for growth. Then find your own balance in your thinking, and get an amicable divorce where everyone can congratulate themselves on being better off emotionally and spiritually as a result of the divorce. Then get on with your life.

Or stay married and find yourself a good doctor who will help you camouflage all the symptoms of your distress, and spend all your energy on maintaining a fantasy in the eyes of the world, while you are deeply unhappy.

There is no reason to become a victim when your marriage ends.

I know which approach works – been there, done that, and lived to express my deep gratitude for the experience. I also learned how to cut the process of making sense out of the experience from 10 years to a few hours. It can be done because it is a scientific process that can be repeated at will.

Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.

A Sense Of Belonging

admin — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 07:51:39 +0000

Hello Lovely People

I am very fortunate in that I am part of a large family. My dad was the eldest of eight children, and he had four children and four step-children himself.

I recently attended one of those occasions that bring large families together – a funeral. What struck me most is how the younger generation, my cousins, nephews and nieces, navigate artificial boundaries such as religious differences, cultural habits, and even time and space. I had not seen many of the relatives in more than 15 years, but there was a Love and goodwill that transcended everything.

This Love was not only part of mourning – it was preceded by relatives tracing each other on Facebook and discovering the interesting people behind the memories and photographs. We are always at the back of each other’s minds, because we are truly connected.

This occasion was also preceded by a time of dealing with serious illness and various related crises and discovering the hidden resources in each other. A close family supported each other’s strengths and discovered and accepted each other’s dark sides and became even closer.

Add to that friends who over the years have become as close as family. Do you know that warm and fuzzy feeling when a friend unexpectedly arrives at the funeral of a person they did not know well and says “Of course I was going to be here for you – what did you expect?”

Today I am counting my blessings – and I will be very busy with that all day because there are so many. And to think much of this happened because of the example set by one remarkable man that I could call my dad.

Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.

Information on my Blogs

admin — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 19:36:13 +0000

Hello Lovely People

You came here for a good read, and I can give you a choice.

I will not be updating this blog on a regualr basis, because I already have two other quality blogs that are keeping me quite busy.

If you are interested in spiritual interpretations of everyday life, you should read My Purple Blog.

If you would like to have questions about death, bereavement and grief answered, you should read Ask About Death.

Love and Light

Elsabe