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We like to think that celebrities live a perfect life, because they are rich and famous. Take for example Angelina Jolie – famous, rich, married to a rich and famous man. What could possibly bother her that she cannot simply buy a solution for?
How about a rift with her father that lasted for ten years? No amount of shopping can take away such hurt.
In 2002 Angelina Jolie and her father Jon Voight had a serious argument. As a result they were publicly estranged until recently. The change in the situation came after what Jon Voight described as an “emotional epiphany” that altered his attitude in a moment.
In an interview he described a moment when “everything shifted” and as a result the way was opened for him to be re-united with his daughter. He described his gratitude about what happened and also said that when he is with his grand-children his daughter “sees another energy in [him] which takes over”.
There is a fascinating quantum physical process behind what has happened with Jon Voight. And yes, he may say that the solution came in a moment, but that moment in fact took nearly ten years. And at the same time the ten years took only a moment.
This process is all based on two conflicting sides fighting against each other, and finally the two sides become one. This process can go on for years, or it can be resolved in days. The more intense the experience, the greater the moment of wisdom and gratitude is.
Because we were not in his life and in the moment when the conflict started, we will never know the full truth. After all, the truth that is reported in the press is the newsworthy version of what is mostly gossip.
However, in this instance, Jon Voight probably experienced very strong conflicting emotions about his daughter – where he did not want to lose her love and affection, but at the same time he did not want to accept her judgement and rejection.
Such a conflict situation becomes evident when you say, for example, “part of me wants . . . while another part of me wants . . . “”
Those two opposing parts struggle against each other until the inner conflict is resolved. In that moment when the resolution happens, you experience a moment of intense gratitude where a quantum of light is formed in every cell of your body, and you get a glimpse of the Universe. Jon Voight came close to it when he described the moment as “an emotional epiphany”.
In the moment when this change happens, your entire body vibration increases by a notch, and the change in your energy vibration is permanent. That is why his daughter could remark that she sees another energy in him which takes over when he is with his grand-children.
Is it really necessary to carry such a grudge for ten years? Of course not. When you understand the quantum physical process, it is possible to shorten the process to days, or even to hours if you are really willing to work on it. The longer you carry such a grudge and conflict with you, the more damage you do to your physical and emotional body.
And once you have experienced the success of the process and the means of resolving the conflict, you will understand why we go through these processes and experiences during our lives. You may not necessarily look forward to the next conflict, but you will know the signs and what to expect, and it will be easier to resolve the conflict and move on.
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Yes, I have gone quiet, and for a very good reason. Many things are happening in the background and keeping me very busy. I will be very active with a few massive surprises after 23 November 2010, so keep an eye out for new announcements.
I have wondered why nobody ever comments on my blogs, and discovered the reason! There is an inbuilt spam filter on my website, and for some weird reason it decides that about 95% of the comments people send are not relevant. Lesson learnt – Elsabe will now check that filter often and respond to what people write. Please feel free to also respond if you want to.
Someone asked if you could follow me on Facebook. Yes, you can, if you prefer that. My page is The Intuition Coach (where I do these blog postings as well), and you can read my daily tweets on my personal page (just search for my name).
A few people wanted to know where I get my inspiration from for these articles. My inspiration comes from my own life, things people around me say and do, and of course often from my spirit guides and guardian angels. I have been receiving clairvoyant information from them for years, and noticed the consistency in what they convey to me. Initially I did not quite believe what they told me because of my own blinkered thinking, but when you hear the same thing over and over, it starts to make sense and I started to ask more questions. This led me to reading about all sorts of things and finding the practical applications in my own life. This does not mean my life is perfect – if it was, I would never experience conflict or insecurity or anger or any of the other stuff that makes us all human. In fact, I was just this morning thinking how much I like to argue with my one brother – because we always come from opposite positions, we listen to each other and we are both willing to learn, even if it means bumping heads occasionally. I do believe that my life is perfect for its purpose, namely to find and convey the truth to people.
People have asked about my publications. There are a few books already on the market, and two VERY exciting books about quantum healing and relationships in the pipeline. Have a look at the short stories and non-fiction sections of http://www.ebooksforpleasure.com/ for the books that are already on the market. Let me know if you are interested in hard copies of the books by leaving a comment or sending me an email.
Some people asked about subscribing to the RSS feed on the blog. If you look at the top right hand side of the website, you will see the words “Entries RSS” and “Comments RSS”. If you click on the words “Entries RSS”, you will be taken to another screen:
Click on the down arrow next to the words “Live Bookmarks” and choose the service that you want to deliver an alert when I update the blog.
If you also want to get notified of any comments, repeat the process by clicking on the words “Comments RSS”.
I also discovered questions about the technicalities of reading my blog on Iphone, Opera and Macbook. At the moment I do not have the answers to these questions, but I have added them to my list of things to enquire about. I love the technical stuff, but for now my focus is on getting a huge amount of information out into the world within a short space of time. I can tell you that I use a Wordpress template, and suggest that you ask your service providers for assistance on the display side. If Facebook displays easier, then my fan page (The Intuition Coach) may be your solution for now.
When I return from my hiatus (which will in fact be a visit to South Africa to meet my new granddaughter and do loads of more hard work), you can expect information that will rock the world – seriously. I have been channelling much information recently, and I have spent my time thinking about things and asking loads of questions. As you know already, the stuff I bring to you is not necessarily mainstream thinking, and I would not want to just believe everything and make my name toffee in the world. I want to fully understand and believe in what I receive and be able to explain and apply what I write to help people live better lives.
In the meantime, if you have specific relationship issues, get ready to receive some mind-blowing information about the purpose of relationships, and how to finally end a controlling, abusive, codependent or otherwise bad relationship.
I sometimes get requests from people to help them move to the UK, because they are so unhappy where there are, for various reasons. For example, a man does not like his job in Jordan and sends his CV to me so that I can find him a job in England. Or a woman does not like the cultural constraints on her behaviour and actions in Egypt and wants me to help her find an English boyfriend. Or a man in South Africa hears how happy his friends are in England, and decides to move after them and share their happiness.
The one thing that these people have in common is that they want other people to make them happy. They do not know yet that happiness comes from inside, and not from other people.
To put it another way, they feel trapped in their situation and want to escape at all costs to the land of milk and honey, wherever and whoever that is.
Guess what? These are the immigrants who find fault with everything in their adopted country. They cannot find what they came looking for, and go back to their homeland, even more disillusioned than when they arrived in their adopted country.
This happens when someone does not understand one of the basic laws of nature, namely that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. They live in a bubble of unhappiness and they do not even notice the positive aspects of their situation.
Every situation, no matter how “bad” it is, has two sides. And we have two options in terms of how to deal with the situation. We can focus entirely on the downside, and find lots of evidence that we are right. Or we can deliberately search for the upside of the situation – because it is there if we care to look for it.
For example, to escape from an unpleasant job my friend has developed a hobby that he can make money from. That will combine his passion with his economic need. He can practice that hobby in Jordan or in England.
The lady could find an English boyfriend and be at his beck and call, so that she can survive in England. How does that differ from being at the beck and call of a man in her own country based on her own culture? She already has many means of coping with her current situation but does not recognize them, because she is looking for a solution from someone else.
And the South Africans who want to come to England in search of happiness? Until they have resolved their emotional issues about their own country, they will not be happy anywhere else in the world.
If you are unhappy where you are right now, look for the exact opposite of what causes your unhappiness. When you find it, a chemical reaction will take place in your body, and you will change permanently – for the better.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
I was clearing out some photographs over the weekend and had to decide whether to keep or delete photographs of people who are no longer part of my life. I decided to keep the photographs because each one of those people made me the person I am today, and I want to take my gratitude for them into the future. I have no desire to destroy them or their images. And this is not emotional baggage either. If I lose the photographs because of my own doing, I will not be devastated.
This reminded me of my first serious adult relationship – a really sweet one that was not meant to last. Even at the time I knew that I was out of my depth and I think that contributed to me feeling flattered about the attention I was receiving at the time. When the relationship fizzled out, I felt gratitude and relief and moved on – and kept the photographs and mementos.
Then I had another relationship where my new partner insisted on destroying all those innocent love letters and photographs. At the time I thought I should feel flattered because of his jealousy and possessiveness, but I just felt bewildered and a sense of loss.
That sense of loss has remained with me until this day. It is not a matter of getting closure or letting go of the previous relationship – that was never relevant.
Not all memories of a past relationship are “bad” – or “good” for that matter. Those memories are part of a path of self-discovery and very personal.
When you hand your memories to another person, no matter what your motivation is, it is in fact the beginning of the end for the new relationship. This is the point where you hand over control of your destiny to your new partner, and where you put a part of yourself on hold. That part of yourself does not go away – it waits until you are ready to deal with it.
I spent the rest of the weekend recalling my rose-coloured version of that first relationship – and maybe it was good that there were no photographs or love letters to remind me of the reality – who knows?
I only realized yesterday what I was meant to learn from an incident that happened a lifetime ago – because I am now ready to learn and move on.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Are there things in your past that you would rather forget? Do you regret things you did, or opportunities that you missed?
Do you sometimes think how different your future will be if only you could change your past? Now there is a scary thought – why would you want to change your past?
Think of your life as a series of events. Each event has a purpose, otherwise it would not happen.
Now think of all those events that you would rather forget or wipe out. What was the purpose of each one of those events? How did each one of them contribute to making you the person you are today? And what kind of person would you have been had it not been for those events?
For example, you had the opportunity to study and get a qualification. At the time you did not want to take on the financial obligations, and you could not imagine yourself being disciplined enough to study for three years. Instead, when your parents finally kicked you out of the nest, you took the first job that came your way. You earned enough to survive and have a good time with your friends.
Then one morning you woke up and realized what you had done by turning down the opportunity to study.
What is next? Too often you get caught in a spiral of self-blame and self-pity. You focus on the missed opportunities and you tell the younger generation not to do what you have done.
Do you step back and identify and appreciate everything you have done in the meantime? Do you think of the people who look up at you as their natural leader? Do you list the skills you have gained along the way? Do you look at yourself as a unique person with character traits that are not taught as part of any formal qualification, such as empathy, using your discernment to decide who should be given a hand up and who should be left to learn from their “mistakes”, how to manage your finances, and so on? The list of what you have learned as a result of the route you took is often far longer than the list of things you believe you have lost.
So here is the choice: remain stuck in the past and continue to regret and resent the path you have taken, or make a list of everything you have gained and learned, that made you the person you are today. Who you are right now is a result of your past, and your foundation for the future, regardless of how you choose to deal with your past.
The foundation is there. You can use half of it and build a future full of self-blame and self-pity, or you can use the entire foundation and build a future based on appreciation and gratitude for who you have become.
You will make the choice that is right for you.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Have you noticed how some people remain stuck in the same painful space? For example a bad relationship, unsuitable job, no self-belief, being bullied, even physical illness. And you can add to the list.
They will remain there until they have learned what they were meant to learn about themselves, and only then will they move on.
If you are desperate for your circumstances to change so that you can experience less emotional or physical pain, maybe it is time to take a step back.
In every “bad” situation there is some “good” that you do not notice. The result is that you do not get the balanced view, which will take you to acceptance and new way of thinking and doing.
Ask yourself how you are benefiting from your circumstances, and what is it that you are not appreciating about your situation. For example, many people do not get well because their illness result in them getting attention that they would otherwise not get, and they do not want to lose that attention.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Have you noticed what happens when you point a finger to the person who is to blame for your situation?
Point that finger, and see how many fingers point back directly to you.
Why would that be – apart from the way our hands and fingers were designed? Or maybe our hands were designed in that way on purpose?
Two things happen when we blame other people for what happens to us. The first is that we refuse to take responsibility for our share in the situation. And yes, every situation that involves you always has two sides – your side and the other side.
Have you noticed that when things go wrong in your life, the common denominator in all the trouble is you?
The other thing that happens is that the person who you think is to blame, is in fact showing you a side of yourself that is there, whether you like it or not. What do you do? You could say “but I am not like that at all” and get yourself to believe it. Or you could say “a part of me is like that, whether I like it or not, and I will Love that part of myself as well”.
Now, some people will read this and say “I am not a killer”, but they would not hesitate to post on their social media profile “I could kill someone today” or assasinate the character of another person with their words.
People that interact with us hold up a mirror to us with their behaviour and say “I am showing you a part of yourself that you do not accept and Love yet. What are you going to do about it?”
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Do you sometimes try to do things but then you do not succeed?
That exactly is the problem.
When you try, there is always a “but” in there. You start the action, knowing in your heart that you are not ready for it or have some objections.
Then the action fails and you blame the failure on other people or circumstances or the weather or anything you can find.
Trying is like being partly pregnant. Now try being partly pregnant – you can try any way you want, knowing that you are safe and it will not happen.
Aren’t we clever!
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Quickly write down three things you believe about yourself on a piece of paper. Put the paper in your pocket.
Now ask a few people that you have regular contact with to write down three things about you on separate pieces of paper.
Compare the notes.
Who said the positive things about you?
Who said the negative things about you?
Oh, and remember to express gratitude for what you feel when you read the notes.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
Do you ever listen to what people say about you? Do you take other people’s opinions about you seriously?
This is my personal guideline for what people say about me:
If someone tells you that you are a horse, laugh it off – they are obviously having a bad day and it has nothing to do with you. If a second person tells you that you are a horse, look in the mirror – they may have a point. If a third person tells you that you are a horse, enter the Grand National, because they are telling the truth.
Our auras, what we say and how we behave reflect our inner state. People respond to the energy they pick up from us, and they act as mirrors for us. We need to be aware of what other people see in the mirror.
For example, a person feels inferior and unloved and expresses himself with verbal attacks on other people to prove at all costs that he is right. He is advised to change his approach and say “Have you considered this aspect?” rather than say “You are so stupid – I know better and you must listen to me”.
He does not hear the advice and continues with his behaviour. Then someone else says “Try saying: There are two sides to this. Here is one side and here is the other side. What do you think?” rather than “How can you talk such drivel? Let met tell you the truth, and listen carefully, because I am the master.”
However, the ego is still in the way, until one day when someone says “I cannot hear a word of what you are saying, because I am overwhelmed by how you are talking!”. Sadly, a really good message goes completely unnoticed, because the messenger gets in the way of the message. The result is a person who feels even lonelier and more unloved.
Sometimes we also hide a talent because of the same blind spot. For example, a person is always doodling and making little drawings. Somebody says “That is beautiful – why don’t you do it more often?” and the response is “No, this is nothing” and the drawings are hidden away.
Then a friend enters some of the drawings into a competition, and the unwilling artist wins – but runs away from the publicity and still says “it is nothing”.
Other friends notice this talent and ask for drawings. The artist feels comfortable with the requests, and slowly, slowly starts to trust the creative flow. He builds up confidence to the point where he not only responds to requests, but also experiments with new techniques. Then one day he realizes that he can trust his talent, and the resulting works of art are incredibly beautiful because they come from a sacred space.
You cannot reject the reflection in your mirror for ever.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
