Message received from the Pleiades on 26th January 2012:
“What does loving your neighbour mean? And who is your neighbour? This is another aspect of Love that we want to explain.
Your neighbour is really everyone on this planet, including tyrants, fraudsters, philosophers, bigamists – no matter how you want to label them.
Loving everyone on the planet is an easy task – as is proven by politicians all the time. Loving your neighbour is much more complex, because your neighbour includes family members, friends, the trouble-makers in your community and even your own body.
Here is your task for today: make a list of the people that you find difficult to Love, even though you know you are obliged to. Make a list of the people you Love but don’t like right now.
What do all these people have in common? You. If anything needs to change, you do,
How do you need to change? Ask yourself why you do not Love these people. In what way do you judge them? Then work on acceptance. Accept them as being different from you, and therefore complementing you. They will not change. You will need to change your view of them.
No, you do not need to do this all at once. Do it for one person at a time, and see how your Love grows.
I am fascinated by all the myths around bonding between people – not only parents and children, but also friends.
One myth is that a mother has difficulty bonding with a baby after a caesarean section. Another one is that all parents must bond with their children, or they risk being branded as bad parents.
What is this bonding? For me it is a feeling of “knowing” a person. You know that the person resonates with you and you want to be in their presence, or you know that the person is bad news for you and you do not want to be in their presence. This has nothing to do with family ties. It has everything to do with the energy vibration that we all exude.
I once experienced a feeling of repulsion with a new-born baby for no reason at all. Over the years that baby turned into an attractive, intelligent young person who has always treated me well, but that did not do anything to dissolve that feeling of me wanting to run away when I am in the presence of that person, despite my best sermons to myself about Loving thy neighbour.
I recently talked to someone who feels a similar sense of repulsion for a young person that I get on fairly well with. I was not sure which was worse – the disgust for a well-educated, well-groomed but slightly overconfident teenager, or the self-disgust because they could not find a logical reason for their dislike of the person.
There is no rule that says people have to love their children. It is quite possible to have a child and not like the child, even when they are new-born babies.
Sometimes people can justify their dislike. For example, my mother was quite disgusted to find herself at the age of 18 with a baby who destroyed all her dreams of achieving something in her life. Of course she was quite brilliant and had all the opportunity to achieve her dreams at a later age, but she chose to fixate her emotions on me and blame me for being born and destroying her life.
She did not feel the same brooding anger towards my siblings, because in her mind the damage was done when I was conceived, and there was no reason to blame my siblings for the damage that my presence did.
I grew up knowing that my mother did not love me – she did not even like me, despite my best efforts. She saw all my achievements as a threat to her dwindling dreams, and when I did not achieve she found the proverbial stick to beat me up with for being lazy. No matter what I did, I could not win and the emotional abuse never stopped.
I was well into my thirties before I realized that nothing I could say, think or do would make her change her mind about me. By that time she was an alcoholic and drug addict, and every time she went for another unsuccessful treatment, I got the dreaded phone call from the health care professional about my “cruelty” towards my mother – while I just felt incredible sadness and confusion about the situation.
After my mother’s death, I knew I had to make peace with the memory of being unwanted. The alternative was to label myself as “I am Elsabe and I was an unwanted child”. Thank goodness I realized that the way she treated me resulted in me finding my worth inside of myself rather than in the approval of others. It took me years to look at the face in the mirror, and even more years to learn and later love that face and that person. This is not a narcissistic self-admiration, but rather self-acceptance and getting comfortable in my own skin despite how other people treat me.
When you look at the way waves of different frequencies react when they collide in nature, you will realize that some waves fit together perfectly because they share the same wave-length. Other waves clash and the result is fragmentation and chaos.
People consist of energy, and we also respond like waves. With some people you communicate easily because you are “on the same wave-length”. With other people you clash because you share incompatible frequencies. The behaviours of people are no different from the behaviour of energy waves in nature, because people consist of energy waves.
The difference with people is that we have agendas for our existence here. When we clash with people, their agenda is to help us make peace with those parts of ourselves that we disown. They have this agenda because it is part of the contract that we enter into with various people before we incarnate.
This is what works for me: when I discover that a person does not resonate with me, I grin and bear it until I am able to put into words what it is that I find repulsive about the person. Then I do introspection until I am clear in my mind on exactly how and when I display that same repulsive trait. This does not suddenly mean I discover an unconditional love for the person and we get on well from there onwards. It does mean that I understand what it is that I need to accept in myself, and that I am reminded of any residue of self-rejection every time I meet with that person.
Whenever I discover and accept another part of that self-disgust that is reflected in the other person, a quantum of light is formed and my own bodily vibration changes to a higher frequency. Rather than outright rejection, I am then able to display tolerance towards that person.
If life was uncomplicated, we would not have bothered living on this planet.
I am very fortunate in that I am part of a large family. My dad was the eldest of eight children, and he had four children and four step-children himself.
I recently attended one of those occasions that bring large families together – a funeral. What struck me most is how the younger generation, my cousins, nephews and nieces, navigate artificial boundaries such as religious differences, cultural habits, and even time and space. I had not seen many of the relatives in more than 15 years, but there was a Love and goodwill that transcended everything.
This Love was not only part of mourning – it was preceded by relatives tracing each other on Facebook and discovering the interesting people behind the memories and photographs. We are always at the back of each other’s minds, because we are truly connected.
This occasion was also preceded by a time of dealing with serious illness and various related crises and discovering the hidden resources in each other. A close family supported each other’s strengths and discovered and accepted each other’s dark sides and became even closer.
Add to that friends who over the years have become as close as family. Do you know that warm and fuzzy feeling when a friend unexpectedly arrives at the funeral of a person they did not know well and says “Of course I was going to be here for you – what did you expect?”
Today I am counting my blessings – and I will be very busy with that all day because there are so many. And to think much of this happened because of the example set by one remarkable man that I could call my dad.
Love and Light
Elsabe
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The answer is amazingly simple, regardless of what the drama is about.
Take a step back. Look at your self and the other people involved.
See yourself and them as actors on a stage.
Then ask yourself what the most important lesson in it all is for you. What do you need to learn about yourself from it all? How will you become a stronger, wiser person as a result of the experience?
Once you understand what the lesson is, the final step is to thank those family members involved for what they have taught you. Expressing this gratitude is essential.
Some people call it forgiveness, but it is in fact gratitude for what they have taught you, rather than that “turning the other cheek” stuff where you judge them without understanding a thing.
If you are involved in a family drama and you cannot see the lesson, give me a call on (UK) 0845 302 4782 so that we can discuss it.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am The Intuition Coach. I help people who lack clarity, vision and purpose to remove their blocks, discover their intuition and achieve their goals. What is consuming all your energy? Visit www.TheIntuitionCoach.com for a FREE New Start Quiz.
