Hello Lovely People
Think back to a situation that you can describe as your own war. Was it a war where you were a soldier? Or was it an argument, or a conflict situation that you did not enjoy at all? Was it inner turmoil where you had to make peace with some changes in your life?
Here is the interesting question: what did you gain from the situation?
One of the main things I have gained from war – even if it is just conflict with another person, is an appreciation of diversity. We are not the same. There are a few billion different people on this planet. Every one of us have something to contribute to humanity.
I have experienced inner conflict situations where I assumed that various people were the enemy. I have on many occasions been surprised to discover empathy and compassion in others, and this has taught me humility.
Conflict situations have allowed me to experience gratitude for what I have and for what I have gained from the conflict. I have learnt to look for the upside of every conflict situation and for the downside of every situation that was based on an infatuation with a person or circumstances. As a result my life has become far more balanced. I have learnt to control and manage my emotions, rather than allow strong emotions to manage me.
Have you noticed that with any conflict you get to a point where you have clarity of vision? You move above and beyond the conflict and as a result you see the so-called bigger picture. Suddenly you realise how petty and insignificant your conflict is, and you experience the relief that goes with peace.
Have you ever had conflict with a love partner, and as a result experienced even deeper love based on increased understanding? Now there is a moment of peace that I would not exchange for anything.
Looking back at my life, conflict has allowed me to cut ties with people and move on. Often we hold on to people to the detriment of everyone involved. Conflict allows us to let go and grow into greater things. Sadly, we hardly ever stop to thank our opponents for allowing us to leave them behind.
Conflict also often forces us to change direction. Remember that vicious boss who eventually made you resign in desperation? Remember how you got a far better job which allowed you to grow and learn more about yourself? Imagine still being stuck in that going-nowhere-fast relationship and not meeting the next person who was ready for the new you.
War and peace do not only happen between countries. We have war and peace inside of our selves and around us on a daily basis.
Next time you wish for peace, remember that peace will not last. Neither will war. We need peace as much as we need conflict. That is the purpose of our existence here.
Of course needing conflict does not mean needing to kill other people. Just step back and see what you can learn from yourself about the conflict. Then thank your opponent for the lesson and move on.
Love and Light
Elsabe
PS: I am a professional transition coach. I help individuals and businesses to achieve their personal and commercial objectives.
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